At this moment in time I am very tempted to rant of how annoying my night was. Sleeping on a sofa, mosquitoes and car alarms, coupled with ridiculous dreams, is just not how I want to remember this sleepover at my friend’s house. She had family over so I took the sofa. Meh.
I just did rant, didn’t I?
My good friend Goodness- I call her sister- finally got a good man in her life. In our three years in campus she had not dated any guy, and she had only dated once before in high school, and from the sound of things she was just being kind to the guy.
Before I continue there are some thing you need to know about Goody. She is a woman of God and really does live up to her name. She is the most nurturing person I know and I have like this crazy fondness for her, and just to see how happy she is with this man in her life….For now she is off to work and has left me in the house to hang out with the boyfriend BUT I am in her room right now while he is in the living room reading…talk about antisocial!
She was telling me last night that she fell in love with him four months ago *screeching halt* and yes, I do talk with should effects so it is only natural for me to use them here as well.
SO! He (I feel ‘his’ identity needs protection for now) has no idea how long they have been dating. He said two months, then four months, now he says he will get back to me.
Fellas this is how you get shot. In his case, this is how he will get a black eye. Goodness can carry him so you can just picture how strong my Cameroonian friend is. How do you forget your anniversary? HOW?!
Now he tells me me it has been nine months after discreetly asking her, which is a while, and they are both really happy. For now a least, until he forgets another important date like he did her birthday, even after she told him, “It is my [twin] brother’s birthday today…” Men.
This couple has taken steps to ensure their relationship honors God, and that includes discussing uncomfortable pasts and revealing their struggles. They are taking a chance to be vulnerable with each other and saying things they would never admit to anyone else and also sticking to certain personal standards that each had set before getting into the relationship.
What people do, or I have done, is glossed over shortcomings and other issues to appear put together to the other person. This of course does not work for me because God is in a habit of exposing my flaws so I can either deal with them or accept them *sigh*. I am glad that now I have a solid example when it comes to having a godly relationship. I have always wondered how ‘God and relationship’ works but now, they make having prayer and bible study together look so…normal. In the past it felt fake to me and that would be abandoned a few days later, if it ever happened at all.
The whole of last night I was making remarks about the two, like ‘ah please, you two, stop holding hands, I now really look like a third wheel.’ and ‘YOU! Stop whispering to her, mschew!’ just to torment them and I know the boyfriend thinks that I am psycho, strangely I do not mind, but that is how I show my approval for what they have.
Even in my third-wheel state, what I am in awe of is how filled I feel. You know that feeling you get when you are with a new man in your life? I have that some feeling but this is different, purely agape love. The beauty of having a relationship with God. Same way we humans feel the need to relate with people and build relationships with others, it is beyond me why I never thought of doing the same with God. I know I should feel lonely now that all I seem to notice nowadays are couples holding hands and displaying other signs and symptoms of affection, but I am okay. At lease since last week…
I have a checklist of the type of man I want in my life, but I have a feeling Jesus has crossed off half the requirements because He knows what is best for me; I think I know what I want, but He knows what I need (preach!). And I am not going to seat here and wait for the eyes of my future Mr. Whoever to be opened, nope! He will find me living my life. Sit and wait…psh! Really ladies?!
PS: He just might get a lecture tonight if Goodness reads this post for forgetting how long they have been dating. She will thank me later for this.