I’ve just had one of those Christmases that end and you go ‘meh!’ but let me not get into the details. One thing though I am battling with is forgiving, forgetting and letting go. Friends and family will upset you but the decision to stay upset is entirely yours.
There’s a video of a young lady talking about how important it is for a guy to make it known from the get go wether or not we can have them. If it’s a no then we know to move on and go spend our energies on another man. You’d think it’s real estate we’re talking about. ‘I’m trying to bag you’ was her main emphasize and that men should stop giving excuses as to why they want to be alone and let us have them! They should, right? 😀
Now I’m sure ladies can relate to this. I watched it the first time and I was deeply amused. Oh I couldn’t stop laughing and sharing. I made the mistake of showing it to a guy; from his reaction you’d think I’d proposed. Weh!
Anyway, I think that video is a fine example of how we women sincerely just need to sit pretty and tight until this man proves he’s worth getting up for. That way you avoid relationships that have you treating a man that’s not your husband as though he were and situationships that not only drain you but have you treating a man that’s not your man as though he was, then you get pissed off when he doesn’t live up to your expectations and commit.
This is what we call running ahead of God in the wrong direction.
‘God I really like them and they seem perfect for me. God help this work.’
10 months later…
‘God if this is not from you, please end it, the hurt is too much…’
Then we spend another 3 months recovering from the hurt and pain, writing and deleting angry messages and playing conversations in our heads with the other person trying to get closure when in real life any such conversation will leave us looking like the victim because let’s face it, it’s never our fault! 😀
We should be careful what we pray for, yes?
I was telling a friend who broke up with the girlfriend recently that silence means wait. Now if only I took my own advice I wouldn’t want to be hiring hitmen. In light of this, I should never have had boyfriend. At aaaallll!!! That said, I am grateful for the experience. I have learnt a lot, grown to act like a lady in the face of unfairness, learnt to lean on God when I have a broken heart, and also increased my confidence and self worth.
But there are some people who shouldn’t have been in my life at all. The scars are real!
So yes, lady, don’t bag a guy with plastic or otherwise. Just wait. God isn’t a God of confusion and when He speaks it’s clear who the right good godly man is. In the mean time, you don’t need the spirit to move to let you know a guy is taking you for a ride. If you feel he is, he probably is.
Women of God, do not stir up love until it so desires. If you feel the urge to date or enter into a situationship with a guy you have doubts about, brag a bible. Or sleep. Or find a hobby. Or leave the country. Or hire a hitman.
PS: husband requirement- must be a reader of my blog whether or not it bores the soul out of him tihihihi!