Here, come now, let us reason together.
‘You are too put together for your age.’
This was said to my mid-twenties girlfriend by a thirty-something year old man.
This will be an angry rant. I really should not sleep anything less than 6 hours. I turn into such a little monster!
So now, what does this even mean? ‘…too put together for your age’. This is not the first time I’ve heard this line said to me or my friends. Yet you are the same men who sit down and have a conference about how chick x is loose and chick y drinks and parties too much and how chick z is ratchet. How you can’t deal with the drama chick a brings and how b can never be wife material and how you pity your pal for marrying chick c.
If you tilt your head to the right, squint and hop from foot to foot… THEN maybe one may see it as a complement but I take great offence. You expect me to be a certain way but are surprised enough to complement me when I am? Reminds me of a ‘Pretty for a black girl’ campaign that went on sometime back… I have searched online but couldn’t find it, but it was there. Cool video and all.
Anyway- this statement is an oxymoron of sorts, like a female in their mid-twenties cannot be put together. Cannot have an idea of what they want and live true to it. Cannot have an opinion about THEIR life and how they view it, all charted by their experiences, environment- the works. And most of all, cannot be messy, because god-forbid she has flaws. ‘Flawlessness’ is for the 30 somethings so… live a little.
So now that we are too put together for our age, ati now it means that we are uptight and need to loosen up.
I can’t continue beyond this. I’m too tired… WHO HURT YOU?